This isn't encouraging to me, it's sad.
We still have great sex 3 or 4 times a week and, no, he doesn't use Viagra, Ciasis, etc. It has been very therapeutic to read about other people's experiences.
If she can't or won't consider that the church is a lie, you need to move on because this relationship can't go anywhere.
It sounds like you HAVE done your best in the past.